Slutwalk Today
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citrus_javaSlutwalk. Got a ride there with a bunch of feminists, spent it playing I Never, sharing personal stuff, trying to play the raunchiest feminist songs on the ukelele (first time I ever tried to play one, I think), cheesily flirting with each other, talking about the differences between the waves of feminism, and trying to find cheap, vegan, gluten-free food.
You know, like the Winchesters and Jack Kerouac.
Awesome road trip.
It was too cold and too unsafe to wear my I Love Queer Porn shirt, so I was a covered up slut this time. Hugged a lot of people. Said no to a hug I didn't want, which was really hard to do. Heard a heartfelt, touching cover of Barbie Girl, sung on a megaphone cause we had no mic. Got harassed, cause of course, and everyone got pushed around a little by the police, just to make sure we remembered who was in charge.
It's so meaningful to me that this year, with new organizers, the Slutwalks made a point of being (way more) inclusive. The organizers made a point of inviting people from a whole lot of groups to write short pieces about it, from their standpoint . so many women, so many survivors, so many people I wanted to hear from - genderqueer, crip, asexual, immigrant, fat, people of different races and ages, trans, femme, butch, people living in rural areas, prostitutes, people in BDSM, mothers, heterosexual, cisgender, white, male, gay, lesbian, pansexual, polyamorous. And not even "one of each", I think they just included whoever wanted to write or talk, as well as personally asking people to talk. It came out real awesome, and was what made me want to go.
And sure, there's more to be desired. Not everyone could participate, and that is a big deal. But it is so much better than most feminist events I've been to, which are so often only about women from the strongest social groups. I want to set this at the new standard for events.
I'm so hungry to hear about all these people's different experiences, when they're things I am ignorant about, and to hear people actually saying stuff I so desperately need heard, when it's stuff I know too well myself.
You know, like the Winchesters and Jack Kerouac.
Awesome road trip.
It was too cold and too unsafe to wear my I Love Queer Porn shirt, so I was a covered up slut this time. Hugged a lot of people. Said no to a hug I didn't want, which was really hard to do. Heard a heartfelt, touching cover of Barbie Girl, sung on a megaphone cause we had no mic. Got harassed, cause of course, and everyone got pushed around a little by the police, just to make sure we remembered who was in charge.
It's so meaningful to me that this year, with new organizers, the Slutwalks made a point of being (way more) inclusive. The organizers made a point of inviting people from a whole lot of groups to write short pieces about it, from their standpoint . so many women, so many survivors, so many people I wanted to hear from - genderqueer, crip, asexual, immigrant, fat, people of different races and ages, trans, femme, butch, people living in rural areas, prostitutes, people in BDSM, mothers, heterosexual, cisgender, white, male, gay, lesbian, pansexual, polyamorous. And not even "one of each", I think they just included whoever wanted to write or talk, as well as personally asking people to talk. It came out real awesome, and was what made me want to go.
And sure, there's more to be desired. Not everyone could participate, and that is a big deal. But it is so much better than most feminist events I've been to, which are so often only about women from the strongest social groups. I want to set this at the new standard for events.
I'm so hungry to hear about all these people's different experiences, when they're things I am ignorant about, and to hear people actually saying stuff I so desperately need heard, when it's stuff I know too well myself.
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Date: 2013-04-14 10:46 am (UTC)Sam has had a good long look at the world outside of what they’re used to, the road, crappy motel rooms, hustling and fraud to survive he was for a time more upwardly mobile, was a law student with nice friends with good families and more able to fit in with society than Dean
Exactly. As I see it, Sam has experienced being sort of part of society, and believes he can get that. Dean never could. I think that's a major part of why he won't quit hunting, and is so terrified to lose Sam to collage. It's like losing his only partner in this wild place outside of society (and of urban spaces, by the way, literally and figuratively). Sam could be part of society, in Dean's eyes, but Dean never could, and he'd be left outside, alone, with no purpose to life without Sammy. (You can do this alone - Well, I don't want to) He is so invested in caring for Sam and willing to sacrifice himself for Sam, that he does decide to give him his blessing, but unlike Sam (and I!) thought at first, he doesn't mean to be part of it. To him, sending Sam to be part of society nullifies Dean, it's exactly fitting for him to die for it. That's part of why Sam doing the trials messed with his head so much. And Sam seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, and refusing to leave without Dean? *That* is the happy ending I want for them.
Also part of why Dean was comfortable in "pure" purgatory, with Benny. No society there, being normal there was closer to what he was.
more about Dean being uncouth
Exactly! Which makes Dean the more subversive one about this, and makes me fond of him...
though rejecting hegemony by oppressing the stronger disadvantaged groups (that already got partial protection from hegemony, but are still weak and easiest to go after to annoy hegemony, like going after someone's pet) is so cliche and just... can it please be over, done?
I think as much as Sam is later portrayed as seeing the road, the crappy motels as more his life than college and normal I still think Sam is more refined than Dean, sees himself as such and hates when Dean shows clear examples of being unsophisticated.
Oh, absolutely. Always exasperated, othering Dean, clarifying he's not like him. It is, perhaps, very telling, that when Dean was surprisingly nice about being gay (with Aaron and Charlie), Sam's reaction wasn't surprised delight, or even a private smile about Dean growing out of or never being hysterically homophobic. He looked surprised and disturbed.
I enjoy thinking it's cause of his deep unrequited desires, but I suspect it has more to do with it changing the balance - Dean taking Sam's place as the liberal brother, and Sam needing to redefine himself. And perhaps even, if only for a fraction of a second, one of those thoughts that cross your mind unbidden and you don't act on - "someone needs to set boundaries", to be a little homophobic, if Dean's not doing it, perhaps Sam should. Perhaps because Dean was talking about himself ("He was my gay thing"). But it didn't look, idk, jealous, to me. It looked like Sam's first reaction was to try to hold the world in place, the order in it.