citrus_java (
citrus_java) wrote2014-10-01 07:42 am
Does this fic exist?
We write so much dub-con -  is there any fic out there at all about anybody dealing    with any form  of domestic abuse -  not as part of a story about a better relationship coming along? As a personal thing ?

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Totally.
From what I understand, abuse can really thrive in subcultures like BDSM or queer communities? I'm not very well-read on this, but that's my understanding.
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I know about myself that I sometimes need to work to figure out if there is even a line .
I don't shine at saying "no" when I know it's disappoint the other person - or I know what is expected of me. It's harder with people I care about and want to please. I've found myself talking myself into things I didn't want, telling myself it would be like BDSM, so it's fine .
But more than that - the desire to sub and the desire to be abused (some variations of it, at least) are not always a different thing at all - the safe and mutually wanted aspects are a very important difference , but the drive can be the same.