I really hope it's not too creepy for me to comment on this, over a year after you posted it, and not being "friends with you on LJ" or anything. But what you write here resonates so much with me. Especially what you write about identifying as ace. The last couple of months I've been reading a lot about asexuality and I'm still not sure whether it would be OK for me to identify as ace, for the same reason you mentioned: I think I do experience sexual attraction (though there doesn't seem to be a definition everybody agrees on) but I don't want to have sex with people.

I just wanted to let you know that it's nice to read that there are people who are (were?) struggling with similar things. It makes me feel less weird and that's something I'm grateful for.