first, I'm appalled I've never seen this movie. I need to put it on my list. It's also making me nostalgic for The Cure and now I know what I'll be listening to all day *g* and maybe I'll have time to watch some concert footage later. EEEEE YAY!!! Only Robert Smith has the ability to get me this excited.
Gender and sexuality are so complex huh? You know just the other day my partner and I were at a friends house, she's making our wedding cake for us and we were over for a trial tasting of it. And there the two of us are eating wedding cake and talking about our honeymoon, we're going to Mexico to a couples resort, and she's like "for gay and lesbian couples?" and we're like ???? ummm no.....actually that never would occur to us. So she's like "why not? I wouldn't be comfortable being affectionate and hand holding blah blah blah" and all I could say was, I know this sounds weird but I don't really identify with being gay. She laughed until she cried at that...
I mean, I don't really know what I mean when I say that really but...I definitely identify with being feminine and a girly and I have been with a girl for 18 years, who is very much like me. I know in my head that people will say that makes me gay. I don't know why that isn't any kind of identity I have. I'm an artist and a mom and a lot of things that come before my sexual identity. I don't know why that's the thing that I should separate out and use as my roadmap of life. It's funny to me.
Things are changing, it's pretty amazing huh. I spend a lot of time explaining to my 18yr. old son how different things are today.
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Gender and sexuality are so complex huh? You know just the other day my partner and I were at a friends house, she's making our wedding cake for us and we were over for a trial tasting of it. And there the two of us are eating wedding cake and talking about our honeymoon, we're going to Mexico to a couples resort, and she's like "for gay and lesbian couples?" and we're like ???? ummm no.....actually that never would occur to us. So she's like "why not? I wouldn't be comfortable being affectionate and hand holding blah blah blah" and all I could say was, I know this sounds weird but I don't really identify with being gay. She laughed until she cried at that...
I mean, I don't really know what I mean when I say that really but...I definitely identify with being feminine and a girly and I have been with a girl for 18 years, who is very much like me. I know in my head that people will say that makes me gay. I don't know why that isn't any kind of identity I have. I'm an artist and a mom and a lot of things that come before my sexual identity. I don't know why that's the thing that I should separate out and use as my roadmap of life. It's funny to me.
Things are changing, it's pretty amazing huh. I spend a lot of time explaining to my 18yr. old son how different things are today.