You move in the world differently when you know society doesn't accept you. You go to the supermarket differently. You meet new people differently. You watch TV differently. You work cases differently. When people talk about "everybody ______________ " you feel at least slightly differently. You include yourself or don't include yourself in different groups and react emotionally to stories in a different way - even if very tiny ways.
You look for people like you. For instance, I'm pretty sure that in years of reading Wincest, never read a story in which either of the boys ever looked at some person on a case and wondered if they were in love with their sibling too. And they had reasons to, they had canon reasons to, apart from it just making sense to look for someone like you, especially when you're so isolated, and especiually when they do that for so many other things.
Even for an identity like gay, that is almost totally accepted, compared with most disempowered identities, people will still look at you weird many times, even nice accepting people will do things like pat themselves on the back for being nice and accepting towards you, or assume you won't or can't do things, or feel it was ok to ask you intrusive questions or expect you to educate them, or you know, just fire you and stuff. For things like being trans to living with anxiety, it's so incredibly worse. Incest is just in its earliest campaigning days. Do you imagine someone doing a Represent shirt campaign for that? Do you imagine even a Tumblr affirmation post not getting hell for that?
Those things matter. It matters to have no representation on TV except for on the bloodiest show on HBO that prides itself on decadence/cruelty. It matters that that would be the only place society would be willing to put you, that that is the only place you are told you belong.
It matters not knowing anyone at all with whom you can share the experiences specific to your situation, a situation so meaningful in your life. Even if you're out about it - which would NOT BE EASY regardless of how cool they are about it - they don't have anyone at all to share their experiences with. That makes a person feel isolated, makes a person feel unworthy and less human - particularly when they already feel that way anyway, like both Winchesters - I mean, for all we root for it to be awesome for them, but that is not a way to wipe the world clean, you know? Unless some magical creature changed things - IT MATTERS. And on that not - never ever a single fic about that, about making the world more accepting.
I don't equate acknowledging it's incest with beating themselves up, that is part of my point.
OK, I'm telling you as a person who lives this, that that is not a realistic story. Also, you changed the story I described, but yours is not realistic either, not that simply, not by a long shot. I can see Dean TRYING to make that happen, yes.
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You look for people like you. For instance, I'm pretty sure that in years of reading Wincest, never read a story in which either of the boys ever looked at some person on a case and wondered if they were in love with their sibling too. And they had reasons to, they had canon reasons to, apart from it just making sense to look for someone like you, especially when you're so isolated, and especiually when they do that for so many other things.
Even for an identity like gay, that is almost totally accepted, compared with most disempowered identities, people will still look at you weird many times, even nice accepting people will do things like pat themselves on the back for being nice and accepting towards you, or assume you won't or can't do things, or feel it was ok to ask you intrusive questions or expect you to educate them, or you know, just fire you and stuff. For things like being trans to living with anxiety, it's so incredibly worse. Incest is just in its earliest campaigning days. Do you imagine someone doing a Represent shirt campaign for that? Do you imagine even a Tumblr affirmation post not getting hell for that?
Those things matter. It matters to have no representation on TV except for on the bloodiest show on HBO that prides itself on decadence/cruelty. It matters that that would be the only place society would be willing to put you, that that is the only place you are told you belong.
It matters not knowing anyone at all with whom you can share the experiences specific to your situation, a situation so meaningful in your life. Even if you're out about it - which would NOT BE EASY regardless of how cool they are about it - they don't have anyone at all to share their experiences with. That makes a person feel isolated, makes a person feel unworthy and less human - particularly when they already feel that way anyway, like both Winchesters - I mean, for all we root for it to be awesome for them, but that is not a way to wipe the world clean, you know? Unless some magical creature changed things - IT MATTERS. And on that not - never ever a single fic about that, about making the world more accepting.
I don't equate acknowledging it's incest with beating themselves up, that is part of my point.
OK, I'm telling you as a person who lives this, that that is not a realistic story. Also, you changed the story I described, but yours is not realistic either, not that simply, not by a long shot. I can see Dean TRYING to make that happen, yes.